Everyone knows your relationship with anyone should be well looked after and nurtured all the time, but when alcohol gets thrown into the mix it’s a different ball game. It will and it does seriously jeopardize your healthy relationship with your family. Recent studies have shown that 95% of families who bring alcohol into a family relationship always end up with a dysfunctional family. Does this apply to you?
The key to stopping alcohol ruining your family relationship is to spot the problem straight away. If somebody is dependent on alcohol it doesn’t just happen over night, as it is a gradual process and people slowly become alcohol dependent. The problem arises when the problem is spotted as a problem, as then it is probably too late for them to take the problem seriously and just opens the door to another alcoholic dysfunctional family.
It is very common for dysfunctional families to deny the existence of any alcoholic problems. You’ll find that they usually develop a number of different behaviors which gives them an illusion that drinking alcohol is not affecting their family. You’ll also notice that they start telling lies saying they are working late when they are really stopping off at the pub for a drink.
Strangely enough although maintaining the same behaviour pattern, a partner will even lie for their drunk other half when it comes to giving excuses for not attending work etc. If children are involved then no doubt their school work will be affected in a negative sense, due to the presence of alcohol in the family home.
The pain and suffering for the whole family will just continue and get worse unless the problem is confronted by the alcoholic. To deny the problem will just prolong the agony of a family that is heading for disaster. The alcoholic will one day realise that he is hurting the people that most love him, and that will be the day that things will at last begin to change.
You must also remember if you are protecting or covering up for an alcoholic you’re preventing that person from seeking help which will see them have a better life for the future. It’s a funny thought but if the tides were turned and you were the alcoholic, would you want help?
This article is supposed to be an eye-opener to all those who feel the affects of alcohol in their home, whether you are the alcohol abuser or the innocent bystander. Once the problem has been discussed then help is required immediately, so you should either phone up your local branch of A.A. or have a look at a great site at stopdrinkingadvice.org which seem to have the answer to help people stop drinking alcohol and really offer some great advice.
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